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In Dating, Timing Is Everything
You don’t stay in the same place forever.
I’ve been dating a really nice, smart, good-looking man for almost a year now. He’s a calming presence in my life, but he’s also encouraging and excited about my creative projects. We laugh a lot, drink nice malbecs, listen to rock and occasionally dance some salsa.
But we would not have liked each other if we’d met at any other point in our lives.
At all. Not physically, not emotionally. Our life goals wouldn’t have aligned. We would always have had a lot of things in common, but we would have had way too many things separating us for it to work.
I only realized this about a month ago.
“It would be hard to fight with you,” he said as we were having a conversation about resolving conflicts in relationships. “Whenever we have a disagreement, you always pacify the situation so it doesn't escalate.”
Wow.
“My friends are going to have a good laugh when I tell them you said that,” I told him, and they did.
The truth is, this is the absolute first time in my life anyone would say such a thing about me. I’ve always been quick to blow up, and I’m famous for my disagreements with people at my current workplace. And while I’ve never enjoyed fighting in…
