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Maybe He’s Not the Guy For Me
Maybe we’re not compatible in the one thing that really matters.
Lately, my boyfriend’s been getting frustrated with Buenos Aires. He moved there a year and a half ago from Bogotá, Colombia, to study and build himself a future with more options.
He wanted something more than the everyday struggle he was used to, and felt stuck, at 37. A lot of us do in our late thirties, especially in Latin America, where salaries are low and great opportunities are scarce.
And now, he’s working and studying, staying out of the house from 8 am to 9 or 10 pm. On Saturdays, he works and tries to have some kind of a social life. It’s all still very much a struggle, and it will be for a while.
On top of that, a new life in a new country is different even if you don’t have a language barrier.
My boyfriend doesn’t have his family and his lifelong buddies around, he doesn’t have his band or the basketball court of his neighborhood. He doesn’t have many friends of his own yet.
He feels like he’s missing out on something, that he’s losing precious time because things aren’t working out as he’d hoped. He thinks he should go home if things don’t work out perfectly for him after two years abroad.
