Who Doesn’t Have Issues?

People who say they don’t have baggage are either lying or in denial.

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The pandemic got to me last week, and I got back on Tinder. I know.

I noticed an interesting trend with men this time, though. A lot of the men the app shows me, between approximately 35 and 50 years of age, add a strange description in their bio.

“Sin mambos,” which basically translates into “no issues”. Others even explain that they don’t have emotional baggage, and that they don’t want to meet others who do. Seriously, though?

Are you honestly telling me you haven’t got issues, at 40 years old?

Obviously, this is code for not wanting to deal with their partner’s problems. I understand some people have had experiences with relationships where they’ve had to deal with too much drama from their partner, but this kind of comment immediately makes me swipe left.

It tells me they’re not willing to handle any difficulties in their relationships, and that they’ll probably close up or bounce after the first fight.

It says they’re not admitting their real emotional baggage and working through it.

It means they’re in denial and not really an adult ready for a relationship.